Well the most talked about topic for me these days. I know there are several in this category but still everyone has a unique problem of there own. My daughter Avya is 3 years old and I have been leaving her to her grand parents when she was 4 months old. I do job in an IT firm and my timings are long with 5 working days.
Till she was 2.5 years I never faced any problem as she didn't understand much about mummy going to office and not spending time with her. But these days she cribs and wants to spend time with me and I am busy - sometimes with office, in-laws, my other household works etc.... she tells me mama please leave all other work and sit with me, play with me....please and I hardly have anything to say rather than sit beside her and take on my lap, curdle her and kiss her. AT that moment I cant make her understand that how important it is for me to work and manage all stuffs together. I really feel bad for her and for me that I am not able to spend much time with her. Though I also know its these initial years that I have to be really strong and make her understand the importance of mama going to work. Here I also know many of my friends who have dropped their careers will not agree with me & say children need their mom maximum. But then its a big debate and I feel its an individual decision and its very much circumstantial.
If I take my example, well at times would love to sit at home and spend time with family, but then the economic independence I own along with the space I get for my self in office - is definitely something I cherish. Also a truth that I feel - since a women is earning her decisions and steps are valued in society/ family/ in laws. Other wise she is a pale object that anyone can use and not bother to care. Oops big stuff but much a truth...though time is changing and men have subdued a lot, but still to go some more years around.
When speak to plenty of my other friends, many left job for kids, many cant manage in metro cities with home & work and some continuing work. Its difficult its true. Just talking with my colleagues in office and felt that we women have created this problems for ourselves.
In early days it was very true that men & women work/ jobs were categorized and each one of us knew what is meant for girl & boy. Today men wants a life partner who can manage everything for them, and poor women just to prove she can do all...struggles with a BASH..... I feel its affecting... our health, wealth and peace of mind. Today most of us have thyroid a common disease in 30+ women. God save us.
I have written this short article not to say that working women have bad life and they don't give enough to their kids. Feel we give quality time and able to contribute to family in the same way as men. But my only issue is this - somewhere this viscous circle has been created by us and we will not be able to move out of it. Rather get more involved going forward.
